Remarriage after divorce

If one or other of a couple has been married before, and a previous spouse is still alive, the vicar will need to have a confidential discussion with the couple. The Diocese of Winchester provides the following questions to help guide the vicar in deciding whether it would be right to offer the couple a church wedding. The questions are generally a matter of common sense and are not aimed at attributing blame.


  1. Do the applicants have a clear understanding of the meaning and purpose of marriage?

    • Do the couple understand that divorce is a breach of God's will for marriage?
    • Have they a determination for the new marriage to be a life-long, faithful partnership?

  2. Do the applicants have a mature view of the circumstances of the breakdown of the previous marriage and are they ready to enter wholeheartedly and responsibly into a new relationship?

    • Does the divorced person appear to be relatively free of self-deception and self-justification about the past?
    • Did the divorced person take the first marriage seriously and has (s)he learnt from mistakes?
    • Is the other party aware of the possible cause(s) of the breakdown of their future partner's previous marriage?
    • Is there an attitude of repentance, forgiveness and generosity of spirit so that the applicants are free to build a new relationship?

  3. Has there been sufficient healing of the personal and social wounds of the marriage breakdown?

    • Has there been enough time and distance for the parties concerned to recover emotional stability and good judgement?
    • Are there any extant court proceedings relating to the former marriage?
    • Are responsibilities to the children of any previous marriage being recognised and honoured?

  4. Would the effects of the proposed marriage on individuals, the wider community and the Church be such as to undermine the credibility of the Church's witness to marriage?

    • Would the new marriage be likely to be a cause of hostile public comment or scandal?

  5. Would permitting the new marriage be tantamount to consecrating an old infidelity?

    • While it would be unreasonable to expect that the couple should not even have known each other during the former marriage(s), was the relationship between the applicants – so far as you can tell from the information made available to you – a direct cause of the breakdown of the former marriage?

  6. Has either of the parties been divorced more than once?

    • In the case of multiple divorces, the sheer complexity of relationships that may have developed will inevitably make any assessment by you more difficult. However, the Church witnesses to lifelong marriage, and should not find itself being a party to “serial monogamy”, hence neither of the parties should normally have been married and divorced more than once.

  7. Do the applicants display a readiness to explore the significance of the Christian faith for their lives so that their further marriage is not an isolated contact with the Church?

    • Given that the provision of careful marriage preparation should be the norm for all couples seeking marriage in church, do the applicants possess an understanding of the need of God's grace in relationships and show a willingness to be open to Christian teaching?

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